Araz Gholami

Notes from thoughts, memories, and events

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7+1 Principles for everything

  1. Philosophy is a method for finding a way in life or discovering a better state for anything.
  2. The value of your philosophical knowledge is directly related to how much it is applied in your life.
  3. No one is obliged to respect your philosophical beliefs.
  4. No one is obligated to be interested in your philosophical beliefs.
  5. Challenging discussions with nihilistic questions might be a clever trick, but it only proves your ignorance.
  6. Changing the level of abstraction in a discussion neither convinces you nor the other party, nor does it advance the discussion. If you have nothing to say at that level, remain silent.
  7. If you are not independent or responsible for meeting your own needs, your beliefs and knowledge are worth nothing.

End: People will make you like themselves. Don’t become that. Shall be the whole of the Law.

Literature Belongs to the Losers

All the songs, books, poems, sidewalks, and streets. Everything that exists belongs to those who left a part of their hearts somewhere. Winning and succeeding can be somewhat exhausting. In other words, the ideal conditions of life are so fleeting that related songs are limited to a stupid song from stupid person.

A Rainy Night with Ali-Agha Vahed

It’s raining, and the fog is so thick that you can’t see more than 10 meters ahead. Most of the poems I know are about separation; I don’t know any to soothe a beloved’s pride. I turn to Ali-Agha Vahid. Maybe he can help me. But, contrary to my expectations, what came was something that left me in silence, staring at the rain.

يانسين ديليم آغزيمدا دئسم نازيوی آز ائت
ناز ائت منه، ای سئوگيلی جانان منه ناز ائت

Nowruz 2014 And my new backpack

Like last year and following the public invitation from Amir Mehrani, this year I’m writing the Backpack Post.

The world has always had and will always have its ugliness, but we don’t need to dwell on that ugliness during the few days we can choose to be happy. Reflecting on every good thing that happened in 1393 (2014), let’s smile at all those happy moments and welcome 1394 (2015). As for my backpack, once again, a large part of it is filled with experiences from social interactions. It seems I’m gradually becoming an extrovert, though introversion still holds its place. This year, I realized that, contrary to slogans and show-offs, accomplishing great things requires a solid, well-thought-out foundation and planning. This principle can be applied to any person and any task.

The Chronicles of Disillusionment

Scene 1
High school ends, and now you’re faced with countless paths you could choose to follow for the rest of your life. Driven by your passion and the belief that this path might lead to your dreams, you choose a field related to computer science.

Scene 2
It’s your first day at university. You replay the scenes you’ve seen in movies in your mind, thinking you’re now part of an educated elite who understands a bit more than the average person. But as you observe those around you and the various professors, you realize how misguided that notion was.

Scene 3
You struggle through university and finally finish. Now it’s time to use what you’ve learned and enter the job market. You remain hopeful, having invested so much time learning things that even university professors barely understand, let alone those outside the academic world.

Scene 4
You find a way to introduce yourself to the market, land your first client, and secure a contract. The project is supposed to be completed in two weeks, and the payment you receive would typically last you six months.

You’re excited and start working on the project. The delivery day arrives, and the client says the work is great but needs a few minor changes. After these adjustments, they promise to release the payment.

Scene 5
Six months pass, and you finally finish the supposed changes, whether real or imagined. The client promises to settle soon. Three more months go by.

Scene 6
The energy you had stored up over years, along with the contents of your wallet, runs out during this period. Failure? Not quite; you have to survive. You navigate through thousands of competitors and get your next project, this time promising to be completed in a month.

Scene 7
As you approach the end of the project, the client calls and says their niece has created a “Blogfa website” for them, so they no longer need your services. No need to continue.

Scene 8
Here, it’s impossible. It’s the third world, after all. You decide to work with overseas clients, where projects worth thousands of dollars are being done for twenty dollars by people from India and Pakistan. It seems the mess of the third world has spilled over to the first world.

You find an intermediary to get projects for you. It appears you’ve found your way. Things go well, you complete the work, and you’re ready to receive your earnings. But your country and its banks are sanctioned. You turn to intermediaries again, who take a significant cut of your money. So, you decide to ask your intermediary to hold your funds and send them all at once.

Scene 9
Six months pass. Now you want to get your money, with elaborate plans in mind. You contact your intermediary. They refuse to give you your money. Pour the water where it burns the most.

Scene 10
Struggling to breathe, you decide to abandon freelancing and stay employed in a company until things stabilize. You accept one of the job offers. What’s your role? Supporting a system that was developed in the U.S., localized in Shiraz, optimized in Isfahan, malfunctioned in Tehran, and sold in Tabriz.

You see your dreams crumbling.

Scene 11
You resign, abandoning both employment and freelancing. The new path is to start a startup. You begin working with a team. Time passes, the work concludes. Now it’s time to find an investor. Sit tight until one appears.

Scene 12
Snow falls as you sit by the window. An old Russian opera plays on the gramophone.

For a Friend Who Will Always Stay with Us

Dear R—–, the news of your passing left us all in shock and disbelief. It’s hard to accept. You left too soon, far too soon. I remember when I posted our group photo on Facebook, you told me to take it down because every time you looked at it, it brought back memories that made you cry. You didn’t know then that now, whenever we look at that photo, we’ll be reminded of your absence and the pain it brings. Your memory will forever remain in the hearts of the Class of 2010.

Rest in peace, my old friend.

Working from Home vs. Working at the Office

Someone once said that the reason Steve Jobs didn’t hire me was that my house doesn’t have a garage. He didn’t say it explicitly, but it was somewhat implied. The productivity that exists in a dedicated workspace is not even one percent present at home. At least not for me. And bad habits resulting from that. For example, being able to work in a place where there isn’t a bed or a couch to lie down on when my brain needs a break.

My blood donation story

Following two issues, I decided to donate blood. One was that several people suggested that I undergo cupping therapy for my allergy treatment (which I don’t believe in, so I decided to donate blood, which is almost the same mechanism). The second reason is that life has been tough lately and I want to help those who need it while making myself feel better.

First attempt, December 10, 2014: I planned to go with my friend Vahid. He has been doing this for a long time and it was time for his next donation. This reduced some of my stress. However, after we arrived late, they told us that humanity currently does not deserve to use my blood. They asked us to come back on Sunday when they are open. So, it didn’t happen.

Second attempt, December 14, 2014: Finally, it happened, but not without a story. After Vahid finished his donation, I followed suit, but for a moment, I didn’t realize what was happening and fainted on the bed. Since I was almost unconscious at that moment, Vahid explained what happened:

“Araz said his head was dizzy. I said it was probably just a normal headache. I called the guy to take him to the bed. They took him to the bed and splashed water on his face and told him to cough. Suddenly, he said he couldn’t hear anything. My heart stopped. We splashed water on his face and shook him a few more times until he came back to his senses.”
– Vahid (@vahidrsj)

If you want, you can donate blood too. They are open from 10 am to 6 pm. The blood donation center is located across from the Kaboud Mosque.

From introversion to extroversion

From introversion to extroversion. Or more precisely, the skill of communicating with people is a long road. I was thinking about how grateful I am to anyone who has tolerated my behaviors during my difficult times, and of course, I am indebted to those who have pointed out my bad behavior in the most explicit way possible. Now that I face people similar to myself during those times, I realize how difficult it is for them to tolerate it, and how much better chance they lose in life just because no one listens to them, they remain rude.

The truth is, if you want to communicate with people, you have to think a lot about your words and behaviors. The idea that people are obliged to perceive everything passing through my mind without any effort to better understand it is foolish. And of course, you have to throw away your selfish brain. Being decisive and insisting on personal opinions is valuable when you at least have reasons (not just feelings) for being right.

Remember that we can learn anything related to work, thinking, social relationships, and anything else that exists. If we are rude, let’s learn how not to be rude. If we have problems in friendship, let’s learn why we have problems and how not to have them, and so on.

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